| Like it or not we are social beings through the affect we have on
each other, for better for worse, for richer or poorer; and there is no
escape. Which is a good thing because it is real.
Do a Sorefeelings sheet and realise what is was like to be you in that place at that time; this is the affect it had on you. |
| Maybe the most sinister of all, and seemingly
innocent, superstition
is that nothing can be done about it, it's the way things are, everyone is like it. Such myth is a can of worms, a fearful black hole. |
| Paradoxically with Sorefeelings we fly in the face of superstition, old wives tales and all catastrophisation and do something about it, and with it; we understand that affect but it takes courage. Newhaven.doc |
| Or we can deny it, and with it the essence of being human. |
| Or we can inhibit a proper human response to a morbid situation by placating or excusing it when we can fight or take flight whatever the cost, no matter the consequences. |
| The good news is that we can share what makes sense with others |
| Who can begin to realise the affect of our bottled up feelings, we who scream silently at those who see us within their sphere of influence? |
| A social environment in which we work best is the affirming and validating affect we have on each other; but if that affect is morbid we will be stressed and lose what confidence we do have. |
| When we feel got at and unable to defend ourselves someone in the system will come to our rescue; but we must be alive to this possibility and recognise a real friend when we sense one. |