We are confident IF we're not screwed up, stressed;
  a. so we are not over burdened, governed by negative feeback
  b. and are in control of ourselves
  c. and are in an environment in which we work best.
 
Without confidence we fall foul of the thought police we find at every street corner, in every family school church firm and club. 

With a certain confidence we walk away when we smell their controlling inhibiting influence and don't stay to help their cause however benign, however seductive their mission statement. 

Yet we have eyes wide open for amicus where ever we come across it and make new friends who will meet us. Friends like Thomas Hardy's Tess who said to the vicar "Don't speak to me as a saint to to a sinner, let the real you talk to the real me"
 
Sorefeelings is for survivors clawing their way into a sense that we matter too; and for those going into a new situation where we are none too sure of making out.
 
We are survivors; when we've stayed too long in a situation and can't realise the potential of our fundamental biological needs in that place we need nomadic and migratory energy to move on.
 
Yet cutting our losses and moving on is not an easy option; it's all too easy to depend on what we're used to and lack the confidence, the self esteem to defy those who seek to control us and keep us in our place; and there is the fear and risk of burning our bridges and jumping from the frying pan into the fire.
 
In another place we learn to travel light and waste nothing, to fend for ourselves and realising what we feel to know our own mind; we find new friends who are too busy with their own lives to notice the old labels which dogged us; and we're confident that what we bring to life is good.
 
Confidence, like success, breeds confidence and it transfers well; it is an ease (not a dis-ease) so is caught not taught; being subject to negative feedback we can't run before we can walk nor can we bite off more than we can chew.
 
A confident person has what it takes to handle himself well in a critical situation; and more so to conduct himself so that potential crisis do not develop. 
 
P.S. A pauper is one who prepares little for himself when all he has to do is find the confidence that he can realise the potential of his own needs. 

Alas without real confidence the temptation is to become a control freak; the greater the noise he makes the greater is his sense of  
being out of his depth and of having a low sense of identity.
 
Confidence George reading...what we need from mangers e.g Derek Bootton .. Gary Witheford - makes all the difference = creating social environments in which they work best .. a real creative art meaningful in the lives of those who stay there too.