| Do a Sorefeelings sheet when you're screwed up and realise you
find your situation incomphrensible; and it may reflect
your fear that it's you (and not the situation) who is crazy lazy or just
bad.
When we find what is happening incomphrensible the natural thing is to fight or take flight, but if we can't do that we pay the penalty of staying there, of putting up with it, maybe seen but not heard. We cannot understand because our innate social intelligences do not recognise the legitimacy of imposed instrumental economically expedient arguments. If, as a group, we saw the sense of upping sticks and moving on that would be another matter altogether. As it is we're angry and our madness reflects the chaos we're in; but such madness is a desperate search to make sense of it. |
| What we can't understand is how things can be as they are, and we
feel as we do, when we've done nothing to deserve it. What's more we've
done what was asked of us and still it's not enough.
As social beings we are prone to friendship; but when stressed we are out in the cold and can't find the social support we need; we are not in control of ourselves and things seems altogether too much for us. In our madness we are saying what it's like to live and work where we are coming from; inspectors and managers can't feel it yet their report is taken as objective whereas our version of what happened is seen as emotional and irrational. |
| And we are very angry, and wary of anyone trying to sort us
out or modify our reaction to what we find incomphrensible.
If however we go along with their decisions we invent a sense of phoney guilt to convince ourselves that being dependent we must in some way deserve, and put up with the treatment we get. |
| Sooner or later we bear in our bodies, and in our pockets, the real cost of remaining in what is to us a hostile place. |
| A completed Sorefeelings sheet reflects the chaos we're in yet by
doing it we know our own mind and can act on it.
We become our own critics, seeing both hazards and opportunities we had not noticed before, liberating ourselves from madness. Herein lies our developing confidence and sense of responsibility so that we know where we are with each other. In a hack way we who embrace that chaos find essential humanity waiting there to be recognised. |