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8. A viable sense of identity comes when we are confident that “what we bring to life is good”; knowing it we can affirm each other as and when we feel it’s appropriate.

We get a phoney sense of identity when we rely on the impression we seem to make on other people, and on what we imagine they think.

How we handle ourselves in problematic situations is the value we bring to life; it enhances or qualifies our sense identity, self worth and self esteem; this is a moving feast, never fixed.

With an adequate sense of self worth we are confident to face
the day whatever it brings, and defer to no man; else we rush about trying to impress whoever seems to matter, which is futile and qualifies our sense of identity, of self esteem.

With a low sense of our own value
we are fearful of intimacy and pay too
much for the friendship we do enjoy.

Beware lest we rely on how we are
valued by others when it is our job
to know our own value and worth.

Our confidence develops as we know
our own value; with it we elicit similar
confidence in our trading relationships.

Knowing our own mind we do what
needs to be done; such satisfaction
can't be measured, it is beyond price.

With a developed sense of identity it hurts when we're with those who berate and rubbish themselves.

Beware a sense of identity built on less than our experience of how we handled ourselves in difficult situations; even if on looking back we could have behaved better, that relfection becomes part of the original experience.

check on other needs
subsistence security, protection affection to understand to participate, share to create to reflect a sense of identity freedom to choose