Knowing our feelings are what we understand pre-empts worry since we are never out of our depth; we can see this as negative feedback  
so we are not at the mercy of wild impulses seductions or shortcuts.
 
Such confidence comes with realising the potential of our fundamental needs and sensing trouble before it threatens our wellbeing. Trouble happens when we don't differentiate friends from not-friends. 

We can fight or flight but not flirt with trouble, nor make allowances  
for it or explain it as well meant. Trouble is bad news and designed to keep a spurious integrity going, and us in our subservient place.

 
Living and working in viable environments with those who share our sense of purpose we can encourage others to risk it and join in. 
 
With friends we can come clean and are free to respond as we deem  
we can best realise the potential of our fundamental needs; else we  
are inhibited, emotionally constipated
 
Operating on negative feedback we can't make things happen as if  
by magic; nor do we waste our intelligence wondering what sort of impression we're making on the spectators.  
 
Jack Carter etc maybe the symmetry of a social system itself is essentially nfb so we can't beat the system - it will gets its own back, even burn itself out ultimately.
 
Sorefeelings transfer slow subject to nfb .. drag paradoxically our fear of intimacy and awareness of threat to beliefs and mebos
 
Whereas negative feedback is an engineering phrase we find it coming as a sort of wisdom
 
Being disabled we are governed by a sort of negative feedback so we can't move faster (or whatever) than we can; and we can be apprentices for life and share this confidence with those who want to know.
 
We become self directing when we realise the potential of our needs; so, head in the wind we are intelligent, coming to terms with life as it is.